Your Past Does NOT Define You
We seem to live in the past at times.
We think or speak of what we did, how we were, things we use to identify with (somethings we might not be proud of) is still us…
but when we think about,
it really isn’t anymore & really never was.
For instance, I was a teenager living in the city (especially compared to where I lived previously), I did not hesitate to be confrontational, had a chip on my shoulder, was a “bitch,” and I’m sure there’s more to the list but I’m going to move on, lol! But, that wasn’t me when I was being like that and it is definitely not me now.
I was never meant to be like that.
My circumstances brought me further and further away from who I was and who I was meant to be.
I had moved a few times (my beginnings in the more “country” parts) and then ended up to the “city” part as a teenager. I was naive, I was gullible, I was too trusting, I believed what people said because they said it was truth, I dealt with my father’s death at 16 years old, a year later my grandmother’s death, in my 20s I was in a messy/unhappy marriage, and others experiences (we all have our baggage right?!)… all these things made me those unlovely things I was (was-past tense). I was a child protecting myself. I was standing up for myself because no one was going to push me around again, take advantage, hurt me, etc.
As kids, we did what we needed to do to survive through it all. That doesn’t mean who we needed to be then was actually who we were. You were a confused child trying to make sense of things, trying to survive through it all, trying protect yourself. But you’re grown now and those things that served you before, they no longer serve you now.
Your anger, your jealously, your need to control things, your situations you don’t handle well…
it all stems from a point in your life you actually needed that.
NO MORE!
Please acknowledge that little you, that needed you to protect herself. Tell the little, scared child you were that you did good. That you did what you needed to do to be okay… but now hug that little inner self and let that go, as Elise from Frozen would say!
It now longer serves you, it no longer helps you… it actually hurts you now. It gets in the way of your relationships, it gets in the way of your inner growth, the mindset you want, and stops you from who you actually are meant to be.