Leaning on Others

Whoa…  bring this up to a very independent person and they’re like, “NOPE!”
Guess, what?! If you’re thinking that then this post is for you!

I know this because I’ve been one of them
(and still struggle with being too much of one) 

 I’ve had trouble at different stages in my life, different ages, and I would never really reach out to anyone. 

 “I can handle things myself!”

 I didn’t want to bother anyone or feel the shame I would put on myself for asking.

But, why?
Why would I shame myself for feeling this way? 

It wasn’t anyone else making me feel this way, it was only me and what was in my head about it; about not wanting to be a bother; about not wanting to feel like, somehow, I failed.

Quite honestly, it is still something I can still struggle with.  Just ask my boyfriend when I am trying to do something on my own, when it CLEARLY looks like I could use a hand…
“NOPE!”
”I’m fine.”
”I can do it.”
Or just silence… not saying a thing or shutting out people close to me.

As I have become older and life continues to teach me lessons, I’ve learned that there is definitely a difference between being independent and being TOO independent.  Shoot, maybe we could even call it being a bit stubborn or hard-headed… agree?

My fellow independent ladies… I love you!
I appreciate your strength.
I appreciate your determination.
And, I appreciate when you can take this to a whole other level and ask for help when you need it!

 Next time, when someone offers us help,
TAKE IT. 

Next time, when we’re struggling,
TALK TO SOMEONE. 

If we need help,
ASK FOR IT.

R E M E M B E R, this does not make us weak... if anything, it actually makes us stronger 💪🏻